It Won’t Always Be This Way

By: Kerry D'Ortenzio

I just want to remind you of one thing.  It won’t always be this way.

I think it’s important for us to remember this.  You won’t always feel the way you do today.

Perspective Depends on Position

I’m 46 years old.  Depending on where you’re standing right now, I’m either an old lady or I’m still young.  It all depends on your perspective.  And that too is always changing depending on where we are positioned.  You see an airplane very differently whether you’re inside it or standing on the ground below it.  Perspective depends on position.  Your position will always be changing in life, whether it’s your age, your relationships, your location, your job, or your mental health, and so your perspective will too.  You will not always see things the way you do right now.  Bank on it.

Over the years, I’ve learned that life ebbs and flows.  Always.  And if you’re in a valley of darkness right now, I want you to know that you will not always be there.  You will not always feel the way you do today.  Someday you will come out of that darkness and you will look back and be so glad that you hung on.

It is normal to fall in and out of love

We fall in and out of love.  With everything.  That is our nature and I believe it is a very normal part of being human.  One day we love our work and the next day we wonder what in the world we are doing.  One day we dream of moving to a new city and then we ask what we have done.  Ask anyone who has been married for 20 years or more.  You will fall in and out of love hundreds of times.  Some days you will think I could not love this person more.  And other days you will think I literally cannot stand your face right now.  But if we hang on, we will come back to love.  We are a fickle bunch, aren’t we.  The same is true of almost everything.  We ebb and flow and fall in and out of love.   How can our feelings change so much? 

You guys.  You will not always feel this way.  There is one thing we can count on in life and that is that it will change.  So what will you do with your one beautiful life?  What will you do with your 25,000 days?  How about this one?  

My advice to you today is hang on.  Hang in there.  This is your sign that things will get better.  You will not always feel this way.

A shift in perspective might change your life

What can life expect from YOU?  We are used to wondering what we can expect from life.  Maybe what you need today is just a shift.  Most of our dissatisfaction comes from expecting certain things from life and waiting for something good to happen to us.  What if you shift that today?

“What if instead of waiting for good enough things to happen to us, we could be the good thing to happen to someone else who’s waiting?”  –Ann Voskamp

How about today.  Someone is waiting for you to be the good thing.  You will not always feel the way you do today.  Possibly the first step is for you to focus on being the good thing in the life of someone who needs you.

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